• Blogs,  Discipline & Boundaries,  Parenting

    Other People’s Children

    We all know how difficult it is as parents to toddlers, who are prone to act and behave in ways we’d sometimes prefer they didn’t, but we accept and understand they are growing, learning and at an innocent age that needs nurturing and guiding. As a father to two year-old twin boys, not a day goes by where I don’t see them getting a bit heavy handed, snatching, not sharing and all the rest… but also, not a day goes by where I don’t challenge this behaviour and use these moments to teach them about acceptable behaviour. I’m pretty sure I’m talking to a brick wall most of the time,…

  • Blogs,  New Mum

    Preparing for Baby (without going shopping MAD!)

    Like most people, if I had my time over again I would do some things differently, and the same would be said about preparing for when baby arrives. For my first, I spent a small fortune on baby items that I hardly used. Googling check list after check list, searching for the best deal, and not really understanding what I needed it for. My necessities list quickly turned into a niceties list, and I bought because I thought I MAY need it, and often I didn’t. I can’t be too hard on myself though, becoming a new mum or dad is such an important time in your life, so it’s…

  • Blogs,  Dads,  Father's Day

    Dads Like Presents Too!

    Last year was my first Father’s Day and to say I was excited to receive my first set of extra gifts for the year was an understatement! My birthday is only a few weeks before Christmas, so it’s a long time to wait to get gifts again… it’s rare I get an acknowledgement on Valentines Day (other than the odd inappropriate card) and Easter can be hit and miss with an egg (or at least one of any quality chocolate!). As the day approached I spent hours (slightly exaggerated) pondering what my other half was planning with the kids; a nice meal out? a lavish gift? a homemade card or…

  • Adoption,  Blogs,  Share A Story

    This thing just got REAL!: Our Adoption Journey (Part Two)

    Panel day arrived and I’d hardly slept the night before… Craig was fine, nothing keeps that man from snoring. I remember sitting in the car outside and thinking I was going to throw up, Craig was fine… (really wanted to hate him for being fine but remembered I needed to give the impression to the panel that I loved everything about him haha). We walked into a room with 12 people sat around a table staring at us (TWELVE!!!), as I sat down I nearly chucked a glass of water all over the place which Craig found hilarious but only sent me into a nervous spin. The chair, a stern…

  • Adoption,  Blogs,  Share A Story

    Poked & Prodded: Our Adoption Journey (Part One)

    As we’re celebrating National Tell A Story Month, I thought I would use the opportunity to share our story about how we came to be adoptive parents. Being a dad was something I had always dreamed about, and for quite a while adoption was something really on my mind, however it wasn’t on my partner’s. We had brief conversations about having kids over a few years but it became clear that it just wasn’t something Craig wanted to do. So, I finally swallowed that dream and tried to moved on from the idea. About 6 months later, Craig was working away in India and totally out of the blue sent…

  • Blogs,  Health,  Potty Training

    The Brown Stuff (and I’m not talking about chocolate!)

    I’m going to start this blog with an apology… because I am about to spend the next 700 words or so on the subject of ‘POO’… and not just poo… but Toddler Diarrhoea… in twins! Yes people it’s a real thing and I have it twice over and coming at me from every direction! So, needless to say, read on at your own peril! We were aware of the boys diagnosis of Toddler Diarrhoea from the word go, the foster carer had given us plenty of warning about the smell but she did fail to mention the volume and frequency… which I think are pretty important details to know when…

  • Blogs,  Humour

    CBA: because I can’t be CBA’d to think of another title

    Let me introduce you to what can only be described as a syndrome, suffered by many parents alike. Now for all you medical folk this is a satirical post, however I do think I’m on the cusp of discovering a new medical condition. Though in part, for most of us parents this condition can be quite serious in its severity and can affect even the strongest and most capable parents. It’s called, “CAN’T BE ARSED” syndrome. CBA for short, and I’ve got it bad! I first noticed it coming on when I had my second child, but if I’m honest, it was always teetering in the background with my first.…

  • Blogs,  National Sibling's Day

    Bro Meets Bro

    Tuesday 10th April was National Siblings Day, and even though its somewhat an Americanised event, its still recognised in the UK. So in the spirit of celebrating this day, I thought I’d share with you our experience of introducing Bob to his little brother Teddy, and the trials and tribulations of cementing bonds between a two year old and a baby. Whilst pregnant with my second we always spoke to our eldest about his new baby brother coming. He was only fourteen months at the time, two when baby arrived. When my body started to change and there was no getting away from the subject, we talked none stop about…

  • Blogs,  Sleep

    Spring forward … Goodbye Sleep

    The clocks going forward are one of my favourite times of the year. Summer is on its way! Those short dull days are about to disappear, the birds are singing, the mice are cleaning… sorry went into Disney mode there, but somehow your mood lifts a little more each day as your evening becomes lighter. However, this year is the first year that I can honestly say, damn you clock change! For the last week, the boy does not want to sleep, and we’re blaming it on the clock change because it all started Sunday 25th March. It felt like we had only just got on top of bedtime routines…

  • Blogs,  Kids Entertainment

    365 My Arse!

    My name is Phil and I use too much technology to keep my kids entertained… there I’ve said it. Feels good to get it off my chest but in fairness (to myself) I’m sure I‘m not the only one, and if AA did support groups for techno-abusive parents I would imagine the room would be filled and the meeting a lengthy one at that! I might be being a little harsh on myself but I started fatherhood with all the best intentions of not having kids sat in front of TV’s and certainly not in front of an Ipad… I mean what 2 year old can or should be able…

  • Blogs,  Sleep

    Cooking on Gas

    I’m writing this blog with unexpected energy and enthusiasm given I’ve only had 3 hours sleep! Before children I was unable to function on less than a solid 8, and boy did people know it in work when I rocked up on any less. I jumped out of bed this morning, threw the kids into nursery (they have just started doing full days this week so that may have some influence on my current mood), chucked the dogs into the grooming salon for a morning of pampering, whizzed around Sainsburys and came home and did my best Mary Berry impression preparing tea for the family later whilst listening to the…

  • Blogs,  Health

    Gym Time, Means Me Time

    As a mum to two young boys, finding time for yourself is very hard, or near on none existent. By the time you’ve sorted the kids, cleaned the house, done the washing and if you’re a real super mum, gone out for a few hours, the day has gone, and then its tea, bath and bed time. So, when all that’s done I am far too tired to even think about what I would like, need or do with myself. So, my appearance has taken a massive nose dive these last few years. Yummy mummy I am not! Overweight, from finishing the boy’s food off, as well as my own…

  • Blogs,  Pregnancy

    BIRTH PLANS: Expect the Unexpected

    When I became pregnant with my first, in the beginning the birth was always on my mind. Until one day I told myself women have done this since time began, it surely must not be as bad as it looks on TV. So that was it, I didn’t think about it again, until my midwife told me I needed to start thinking about ‘Birth Plans’. Here’s my story, and my lesson to expect the unexpected. After hearing from my midwife, that I needed to start preparing my birth plan, like a good girl, I did my homework. Attended all the NCT classes, visited the hospital and all the birthing suites,…