Finding a parent who hasn’t had or who isn’t currently experiencing difficulties with kids and sleep is rare, and when you do find one, there are two things you can say to them;
- “LIAR” – You need to shout this and point at them (or just use an outstretched finger in their direction if you don’t want to shout ‘liar’- can be equally as effective)
- “Good for you” (said with a sarcastic tone that lets them know you’re calling them something unspeakable in you’re head!)
It is really tough and so easy to get yourself in a mess over, because I’m pretty sure sleep deprivation is the biggest killer in parents and kids know this… they do I swear it!
Sleep patterns/routines are something everyone has an opinion on, but when you’re living this hell, survival is the name of the game and screw everyone else!
Sleep is definitely my number 1 (2, 3, 4, 5, 6 & 7…) rod. After 12 months of being smug about our perfect nap and night time routines/patterns, it all came crashing down. I first blogged about it in ‘Cooking on Gas’ and since then it’s evolved no end.
It started when I went away for 3 nights to visit a friend, Jay had been poorly with strep throat and whilst I was away it had seemingly come back and he was running a fever. He was waking up, mid-fever, and screaming out for us. When I got back and dosed him up on antibiotics again, I hoped we would get back to normal… but no, and 3 months later we’re still in the same boat. People keep telling us it’s a phase, but I’m not sure if it is an adoption related attachment issue prompted by me leaving for a few days for the first time in nearly 18 months.
Anyway, for the first few weeks we did the trying to settle him back down, but this could happen 4-5 times through out the night and could take 30-60 minutes to get him back to sleep, so needless to say it was killing us. Then we spent 6 weeks of Craig and I taking it in turns to sleep with him in the spare room once he woke up and kicked off.
But then we had guests one weekend and the panic set in because there was no way we’d survive a night of the three of us in the same bed because he also comes with a giant bear, sleeps horizontally AND mooches round the bed. I had the genius idea of putting the old travel cot up in our room. Sure enough that night he woke up screaming out for us (that’s not an exaggeration), we put him into the cotbed and he slept all night without a fuss… best night sleep we’d had in ages.
Now another 6 weeks later the travel cot remains up and I don’t think I even open my eyes now, I go into his room to get him, whatever time that is, stagger back across the landing and chuck him and bear into the cot, back to sleep and BOOM, a good 7 hours solid(ish) sleep a night. He’s definitely too big for the cotbed and we definitely need to resolve it but it’s so hard when all you want to do is get some shut eye.
It’s working for us and I’m sticking to it for now! #CelebrateThatRod